Bearing witness

How involved do you get in other people's 'dramas'? Can you stay in a place of curiosity and listening?

Renny Slade18 August 2022#thewiselearner, #drama, #witness, #listening, #empowermentComment

When life throws you lemons... and hailstones bigger than golf balls...

Sometimes the one thing you didn’t want to happen, or didn’t expect to happen, turns out the be the best thing ever… There is an adventure to be found in anything that happens!

Renny Slade27 July 2022#thewiselearner, #wiselearnerwednesday, #adventure, #hailstormComment

Are you ready to get ready to be ready?

Yes, getting clear on what ‘riches’ you would like to have more of in your life is great… but not enough.
You need to get ready to be ready… and take action now, even if you don’t see immediate results.

Renny Slade10 November 2021#thewiselearner, #ready, #future, #rich, #gratitude, #areyouready, #retreatComment

The link between gratitude and joy

The chapter on ‘Gratitude’ in Wallace D. Wattle’s 111-year-old book ‘The Science of Getting Rich’ is very powerful. I invite you to read this over and over again…

Renny Slade22 September 2021#wiselearnerwednesday, #thewiselearner, #gratitude, #joyComment

Fear – can you get rid of it completely?

Not experiencing fear is quite a task to achieve... so it is important to understand what fear is and how to deal with it.

FREE online retreat: What does it mean to be H.U.M.A.N., and which part of you is most ‘in progress’?

FREE online retreat - In my work as a coach, as well as in my personal life, there are five aspects of being human that keep coming up. Over the years I developed many programmes and courses to address these aspects, and two weeks from now I’m running another free online ‘H.U.M.A.N. Work in Progress retreat where I cover these five aspects.

Self-reflection on perfectionism, and un-learning things

When I grew up, I took on a level of perfectionism that might take a lifetime to un-learn. Understanding how I developed this perfectionism has enabled me to develop a new level of compassion - for myself and for others.

Your 'normal' is not 'neutral'

What can you do to become more aware of what you now consider to be 'normal', that really isn't if you think about it?

Renny Slade21 July 2021#wiselearnerwednesday, #thewiselearner, #normal, #neutral, #beaware, #andbreathe, #fightorflightComment

'Shared sorrow is half the sorrow' - Mental Health Awareness Week - UK

Reach out if you are struggling - to family, friends, colleagues or to me. You don’t have to do this alone.

Renny Slade12 May 2021#thewiselearner, #mentalhealthawareness, #connection, #reachingout, #sharedsorrow, #beawareComment

It’s time to get it right… Right?

Why Özlem Cekic's example is inspiring... I mean, do you really want to talk to people who seem to hate you?

Finding space in a 'high-risk' situation

When you find yourself in a tricky situation with someone, and there is the 'potential’ of your communication ending up in arguments instead of working towards the outcome you’ve both agreed on, what can you do?

Renny Slade21 April 2021#wiselearnerwednesday, #thewiselearner, #findingspace, #communication, #andbreathe, #outcomefocused, #beawareComment

Did you see the smiley in the sky?

If life feels like a rat race to you at times, what happened to the time when you enjoyed the simple things in life? Do you still notice the gorgeous little things that make your heart sing?

Renny Slade14 April 2021#thewiselearner, #beaware, #smileyinthesky, #andbreathe, #thestorieswetellComment

When I assume...

We often assume that we know what the other person means, when we filter what we hear and distort it to something that is true to us, and that fits with our understanding and beliefs.

Violent self-talk

We all have our inner dialogue… and we are not always very nice to ourselves!
How can you move from telling yourself off or what to do, to making positive choices?

CONTRACTS and CONTRACTUAL COMMUNICATION

Why do some conversations (personal or professional) seem to take up all your time without a satisfying outcome? This might be because of the lack of contractual communication.

What DIDN'T you say?

There is what we say in words… and then there is that underlying message that stays ‘secret’ and unspoken. What is ulterior communication, and how can we uncover the secret messages?

WHAT?? An unconscious life-plan?

There is a ‘script’ running in your unconscious mind that influences how you behave and respond as an adult… What is this all about, and how can you change it?

Renny Slade17 February 2021#thewiselearner, #communicationcoach, #script, #lifeplan, #beaware, #autonomyComment

‘Not being heard’ vs. ‘Not feeling heard’

There is a distinct difference between these two which is important to understand - your response might depend on it!

Renny Slade3 February 2021#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #beingheard, #listeningtounderstand, #beaware, #breatheComment

Brussel sprouts and miscommunication

We often hear the words someone is saying, but we attach our own meaning to these words. How well do you listen? I mean: really, really listen?

Renny Slade7 October 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #miscommunication, #listeningtounderstandComment

The language of guilt

When you apologise, is your apology completely genuine or might some guilt have slipped in? And how often do you feel you need to explain something, but then it comes across as complaining?

Renny Slade29 September 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #languageofguiltComment