There is a ‘script’ running in your unconscious mind that influences how you behave and respond as an adult… What is this all about, and how can you change it?

Renny Slade17 February 2021#thewiselearner, #communicationcoach, #script, #lifeplan, #beaware, #autonomyComment

‘Not being heard’ vs. ‘Not feeling heard’

There is a distinct difference between these two which is important to understand - your response might depend on it!

Renny Slade3 February 2021#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #beingheard, #listeningtounderstand, #beaware, #breatheComment

Brussel sprouts and miscommunication

We often hear the words someone is saying, but we attach our own meaning to these words. How well do you listen? I mean: really, really listen?

Renny Slade7 October 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #miscommunication, #listeningtounderstandComment

The language of guilt

When you apologise, is your apology completely genuine or might some guilt have slipped in? And how often do you feel you need to explain something, but then it comes across as complaining?

Renny Slade29 September 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #languageofguiltComment

'Guilty' pleasures

Without being aware, we often judge ourselves (and others) when we just want to do something nice for ourselves…

#wiselearnerwednesdayRenny Slade23 September 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #beaware, #dramafree, #frustration, #guiltypleasures, #enjoyComment

The stories we tell (ourselves)

Through our experiences we change and shape the stories we tell ourselves, and they influence what we believe.

Renny Slade29 July 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #thestorieswetell, #beliefs, #begentle, #beaware, #andbreatheComment

What on earth just happened?

That conversation just went completely off track…. Why?

Renny Slade22 July 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #whatonearthjusthappened, #healthycommunication, #nopoorme, #meaningofwords, #listeningtounderstandComment

What do your eyes say?

Sometimes eyes say more than words…

Renny Slade15 July 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #eyecontact, #andbreatheComment

The meaning of words

Who gets to decide what a word means, or if a meaning is legitimate?

#wiselearnerwednesdayRenny Slade8 July 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #meaningofwords, #beawareComment

Beware of 'the look' on your face...

We say so much more than we do with our voice - our face is often an open book.

Renny Slade25 October 2019Comment

Feel the worry, and write it anyway

This weekend I found myself worrying and feeling quite deflated… I explored why and discovered a ‘Child’, a mountain and a little demon…

Renny Slade19 August 2019The Wise Learner#thewiselearner, #communication, #writing, #goalclarity, #feeltheworry, #mountainsoutofmolehills, #littledemons, #permissionsComment

ABC to dealing with frustration

You are talking to someone and you feel frustrated… What can you do to change the way you feel and respond?

Renny Slade2 July 2019#thewiselearner, #communication, #frustration, #anyonecanchangeeverything, #andbreathe, #everythingispossible, #checkingreality, #dramafree, #librotasComment

Communication Obstacles Survey - Exciting preliminary results are in!

Preliminary results of The Wise Learner - Communication Obstacles Survey give many gems and insights. Frustration seems to be an overriding emotion when thinking about communication…

Read on for more highlights and eye-openers, as well as my ABC to manage frustration.

Renny Slade8 June 2019#thewiselearner, #anyonecanchangeeverything, #everythingispossible, #communication, #goalclarity, #goalclaritycoach, #frustration, #manageyourfrustrationComment

MAGICAL TIME

Clients gain many magical outcomes from their sessions. But as the focus is completely on them, how come I gain so much too as their therapist and/or coach?

Life in contrasts... where is your focus?

If there was no ‘bad’, then we wouldn’t understand ‘good’. We need to understand both, but where do you put your focus?

Renny Slade16 May 2018#thewiselearner, #goalclarity, #goalclaritycoach, #knowyourWHY, #beaware, #everythingispossible, #anyonecanchangeeverything, #transformyourmind, #nopoorme, #bethechange, #fireinyourbelly, #outwiththeoldinwiththenew, #allchangestartswithawareness, #therighttochangeyourmindComment

Just a wish?

A goal without a plan

is just a wish.

The Wise Learner BlogRenny Slade27 February 2018#goalclaritycoach, #goalclarity, #thewiselearner, #therighttochangeyourmind, #fireinyourbelly, #knowyourWHY, #nobettertimethannow, #outwiththeoldinwiththenew, #a''changestartswithawareness, #notimetowaste, #bigdreams, #restoretothecoreComment

If only I hadn't done that...

A few weeks ago I deleted my Facebook Live video in a bit of a panic when I thought my message wasn't picked up the way I had intended it. I now wish I hadn't pressed 'Delete'... Read on why, in hindsight, I would have preferred to have had the conversation.